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Old 08-14-2007, 04:31 PM
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i'm friendly ,i can be friend's with pretty much anyone ,and i talk to this girl on msn ,and myspace sometimes. i told her that i liked her ,and she said she would go out with me ,when she got to know me better ,and stuff ,but sometimes i think the only reason she talk's to me is ,because she doesn't want to hurt my feeling's. i went out with this girl before in 6 grade camp ,but it only lasted one day ,because she said i didn't talk to her ,but i was shy. i blew it ,but she might give me a second chance ,at least i hope so.thats why i want advice
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Old 08-14-2007, 04:33 PM
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At your age, girls aren't gonna make the first move. So yeah, it's up to you to approach them.

Confidence is key. You obviously have a lot of self image issues. You worry about how you look, you're 'afraid' of approaching the girls, feel uncomfortable with your finances and home situation... now just because you're not SAYING those things to the girls, it shows. If you act like you don't care about those things around the girls, they'll be more receptive to the possibility of dating you. Chicks aren't as physically driven when it comes to dating. It's more personality. And confidence is a HUGE thing they like to see in a guy.

Put all those worries behind you and HAVE FUN. Being a worry-wart and meek about things won't get you anywhere.
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Old 08-15-2007, 07:12 AM
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Like everybody said, it's just getting over the hurtle of self confidence. I find if you just don't care about what people think and just be yourself, fun and have fun, like IK said, girls will find that attractive. If it always seems like you want a girlfriend, girls might put up a guard and not be as friendly. Also, your going to be 17, it's high school, don't worry about it. You have probably been around the same people forever and they've known you for many years which can be hard to break molds that high schoolers put on you. If you decide to go to college, you can start all over with a clean slate and meet tons of new people make new friends.
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Old 08-15-2007, 07:21 AM
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travis, all those points you posted have nothing to do with how people see you, they all have to do with how you think they see you.

This is what you need to do:

1. Be comfortable with who you are
2. Be comfortable with who you are
3. Be comfortable with who you are

Once you have those things down, you will see that people in general will start to treat you differently. Once your comfortable with yourself, and you've accepted you for who you are, you will have true confidence, and not cocky over compensation.

On the topic of approaching girls, and talking to them, just talk to them like they are your friends. you dont have to be smooth, or perform for anyone to get attention. I bet when its just you and your buddies your a very fun person, you need to let girls see how much fun you are, and you cant do that if your pretending to be someone your not comfortable being.
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Old 08-15-2007, 01:47 PM
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The worse thing to do is try and put on an act to pick up a girl because, if its gonna be more than a one nighter, you're gonna have to keep that act up all the damn time...and then she's not really dating you anyway
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Old 08-16-2007, 05:01 AM
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never mind about that girl that like,i'm pretty sure she doesnt like me ,because last night i was talking to her on msn ,and she just quit talking back to me, i didnt say anything wrong. i just assume she didnt want to talk to me.
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