yes 200g carbs is for the whole day. You want to eat low gi carbs like whole grain breads, cereals, oat meal, ect. You want to stay away from bleached flower and sugars of all kinds. This will keep your blood sugar stable through the day.

I would say there is no such thing as a "middle meal" each meal should have the same macro breakdown for the most part. (36g Protien, 33g carb, 8g fat) for six meals a day. The carbs will slowly decrease as you thin out, and if hunger becomes a serious issue we can up the fat some what. the only exception will be if you plan on eating late at night. I would take in No carbs for atleast 4hrs before bed.

Now for the wieght training part. Your right, lifting heavey ass wieghts for low reps is best for strength. But because of your situation, and the ridiculous BMI your being tested on, we need to stay away from that. I would use high rep, full body workouts 2 - 3 times a week. This will improve your overall fitness level, preserve some muscle mass, and help burn fat. you may want to look at my journal in my signature, thats what i've been doing for almost two months now.

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