travis, all those points you posted have nothing to do with how people see you, they all have to do with how you think they see you.
This is what you need to do:
1. Be comfortable with who you are
2. Be comfortable with who you are
3. Be comfortable with who you are
Once you have those things down, you will see that people in general will start to treat you differently. Once your comfortable with yourself, and you've accepted you for who you are, you will have true confidence, and not cocky over compensation.
On the topic of approaching girls, and talking to them, just talk to them like they are your friends. you dont have to be smooth, or perform for anyone to get attention. I bet when its just you and your buddies your a very fun person, you need to let girls see how much fun you are, and you cant do that if your pretending to be someone your not comfortable being.
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I don't do this for my family, my friends, women, accolades, pride, or ego. I do it for me and no one else, its just part of who I am.
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