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Originally Posted by MONSTAFACE
first, he is going out of his way to tell all these people whatever he is telling them, because he realizes that majority of it is his fault or he is not willing to take any blame. he wants to tell everyone a story before you get to tell them anything. if he tells them a story, no matter what you tell them, people will always at the least consider his side of the story.
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I kinda figured that's what he was up to.
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(dont take this next paragraph the wrong way)
second. you could have actually did him wrong but are only willing to take but so much blame. I have seen many many people be dead wrong and ask people for advice, and always wonder why they pick the people they pick when in all actuality they are the downfall of their relationships. i dont doubt anything you say, but i have ran into people that are just horrible
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No offense taken ;)
I fully admit that we both had our problems through the relationship. We just had VERY different ways of dealing with them. And his way always seemed to be just ignoring that there's even a problem and hope it goes away.
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all in all. i do believe you. he is just not willing to take any blame at all. he wants everyone to look at you as the bad guy.........why?????? i have no idea. he can be doing it for many reason. he may want you to feel bad and get back with him, or he can be a legit a$$. the only way to get it to stop or get through this situation is to just act like it doesnt bother you. honestly, it shouldnt bother you. pay him and what he says no mind. the more you feed into it the worst it will get. people will believe what they want so just let it be. speak your peice pay him no mind and move on. it is much harder to do than it sounds, but thats what will make it better.
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For the most part, I have been ignoring the things he's been doing since the split. I knew he was going to get a little whiny and even vindictive. It's just when I find out that he's flat out lying to people that bothers me.
I've kept my mouth shut about it all. I could easily do the same kind of things that he's doing. But I haven't. I've tried to at least give him the respect that what happened between us belongs to still stay between us. It just sucks balls that he's acting like he has NO respect for me.