The general rule of thumb, at least is was when I was getting my Master’s degree, is to wait anywhere between one year to 18 months between ending a relationship of more than one year and starting a new one. Some of us feel that a person shouldn’t even go out on a date, others feel it’s okay. I tend to lean towards flying solo for a while in order to drop the excess baggage. The cliché is “finding yourself.” And that’s kinda true. Your into bodybuilding so that’s an excellent way to get alone and focus on something other than someone else.

Bodybuilding does wonders for the soul. I’ve been a bodybuilder for almost seventeen years and other than maybe the first two or three, I’ve always worked out alone. Just me and the weights. My mind 100% focused on moving the weight a few more inches. Eyes closed. Heart pounding. Outside thoughts, gone.

I say that to say this. Don’t worry about the jerk. You’re obviously a passionate bodybuilder. Keep it that way. I always felt invincible in the gym. Do the same. If he’s getting to you, hit the weights awhile. It’ll drive the guys more crazy knowing that you’d rather be alone than with him. That says more about the history of the relationship than anything else.

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