How exactly does one go about developing a good mind-muscle connection? Can you go deeper into this?

Also, I was previously told I can't program worth shit. Which is true because I don't even know what "programming" is...

Here's been my most recent diet.

Workout day:

Meal 1, 6:30AM ; multivitamin, 3 egg omelett. White potato hash browns. 1 cup oatmeal + raisins. 1 glass oj, 1 glass water, (somedays OJ = whole milk) an orange and sometimes two wheat waffles with syrup.

meal 2, 9:30AM; [I'm at school so this meal kind of sucks] 1 chicken breast sandwich on wheat bread with lettuce and BBQ sauce. Usually I'll have something small with this like trail mix, a banana, or a granola bar.

meal 3; ~11:30AM same thing, another bbq chicken sandwich with an apple.

meal 4; 1PM varies. usually a good protein meal though, typically a tuna sandwich with brown rice and broccoli + whole milk. maybe a home-made cheeseburger instead of the tuna sandwich (should I stop putting cheese on?)

3:00 PM preworkout I drink 1 scoop of whey and hit the iron.

IMMEDIATELY after workout [when I go to my car] I eat 1 banana and drink another whey scoop.

When I get home around 4:30 I don't eat a meal until,

5PM meal 5, varies. sometimes it's spaghetti, corn, whole milk, broccolli. other times it's brown rice, chicken breast, vegetable soup, maybe green pea soup instead, wheat toast. another time it was orange chicken with that asian fried rice and a cup of whole milk + an egg roll.

7:30PM meal 6, usually not even a full meal. I make myself peanut butter on a single toast bread, drink some whole milk, grab some turkey and crackers, and a yogurt.

10:00PM bedtime. I drink1 scoop of whey and take flax oil, then hit the bed.