I am new to some of this, so wanted some advice.

STATS: I'm 5' 9" at about 200lbs. I'm 37, married, father of four.

GOAL: I have been overweight my entire adult life, but have lost 35 lbs of fat the last 10 years. I'm really looking to drop the pudge in my stomach and gain definition/muscle. It's really hard for me to lose fat, but seems very easy for me to gain muscle. I have a pretty big frame.

I've decided the next 12 months are my time to get completely in shape. So I'm focusing most of my free time on it.

WORKOUT: I have been weight lifting for a few years with some success. I recently (last week) added cardio 4-5 days a week. I have lower back issues so the cardio I"m doing are cycle classes. I'm weight lifting 4-5 or 6 times a week. 2 hour workouts on most days....if my body can handle it.

DIET: My diet is pretty good, but I'm not losing size in my stomach. So I recently decided to focus on tracking my food, dropping all sugar and processed foods, and no diet soda.

SPECIFIC QUESTIONS: 1) Is working out 5 days a week, about 2 hours too much? Half cardio and half weight training. 2) I'm eating about 2,100 calories a day. But I'm starting to read that I need about 3 or 4 thousand. That just seems crazy to me. I have no idea how i would do that. 3) How can I use my weight training to target fat?

Thanks for helping.