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And by 'mature,' I mean the guys on here that are at least 25+. No offense to you younger guys. If you wanna chime in, go ahead ;)

So, to make a long story short, I'm going through a breakup. We were dating for about a year and a half. Lived together for a good portion of that time (which made the breakup even more complicated).

Now... he seems to be trying his damndest to play the victim role. Making sure that people feel pity for him, that I was the devil in the entire relationship. We both had our faults through this, but I feel in NO way that I was a primary cause for this. In his quest to play the victim, he's turned to making things up, and publically telling people these lies. He's emailed my mother (what a laugh that one was). He's emailed my friends. He's done everything to bring out his 'issues' except contact me and deal with them head on.

SOOOOO.... what my question here is....

Is it simply an ego thing that's making him act this way?

Because really, the breakup was a mutual thing. Albeit, it was a screaming match, but essentially it was a mutual understanding that I'd be moving out. So since the 'person to do the breaking up' is really not one or the other, is it just his male ego being crushed because things didn't work, and that's his reasoning behind trying to seem as though he's done no wrong?

The reason I ask is, this isn't the first time I've had this happen to me. Having someone go SO out of their way to try to berate me to anyone that would listen, while I've tried to maintain some sort of civlity through it all.

And btw, this guy is 35. So it's not a simple "he's young and stupid" kind of issue.

Perhaps I've just been really stupid in the choosing of the men I date and someone needs to give me a swift kick in the ass?