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i was reading intensemuscle - the home of dc today and i came across this thread started by another member called Nikkiboy.

here's his initial post:

"If you could be 21 again"

As a young kid I often make mistakes. Only later to remember I was warned about this earlier by someone older more experienced but thought I was invincible or this would not effect me in any way, shape or form. Sure enough it comes to bite you in the ass. So I changed my stance to heed closely the advice of the older and more experienced.


So if you older/more experienced guys got to be 21 again but still possess all the knowledge and experience you have now, what would you done differently?

Injury, and injury prevention wise

Training wise

Diet wise

Life wise

Work, and Money wise

Women wise

Anything you want to touch upon is appreciated greatly! Yes, kids will still be kids young dumb and full of cum. But I am certain some will walk away with a good message from this.

a lot of people commented on this as u can expect but some of the stuff DC wrote really stuck out:

here is his reply:

he quoted Nikkiboy and put his comments in red (changed to blue here) below nikki's sentences.

"If you could be 21 again"

As a young kid I often make mistakes. Only later to remember I was warned about this earlier by someone older more experienced but thought I was invincible or this would not effect me in any way, shape or form. Sure enough it comes to bite you in the ass. So I changed my stance to heed closely the advice of the older and more experienced.


So if you older/more experienced guys got to be 21 again but still possess all the knowledge and experience you have now, what would you done differently?

Injury, and injury prevention wise
I suffered most of my injuries doing other things. Left knee fell on ice outside club in Massachusetts. Carpel Tunnel right hand from assembling fitness equipment for a company with rachet wrenches. Any injury I suffered from lifting was just pure stupidity, trying to show off, or not paying attention to what I was doing.

Training wise
Wish I could get back the 2 - 3 years I spent when i was in my early 20's doing 3 hour leg workouts and lifting 3 days on one day off, training so darn hard but really amounting to little in the way of muscle mass gain after each year went by....and I truly mean I trained so hard it was absolutely ridiculous. I wanted it so badly. I can remember leg workouts on early saturday mornings that would leave me destroyed for the rest of the day. 7 sets of squats, 4 hacks, 4 leg press, 3 leg extension, 3 sets each of standing seated and leg press calves, 4 sets each lying, standing leg curls and stiff legged deadlifts. Little did I know that the pro's in the magazines werent doing 3-4 hard sets of each exercise to failure, they were doing 3 somewhat easy progressive sets and one hard set each exercise. I was doing 33 hard sets while they were doing 10-11 had sets. Stupidity and I wasted hours upon hours in the gym during those 2-3 years going and gained about 10lbs total.

Diet wise So many mistakes here it would take 10 pages. But one thing that bothers the hell out of me is I didnt recognize till it was too late that I had certain food intolerances and allergies. I had been drinking alot of dairy to gain weight in my 20's and in my early 30's i was continuing to do so. For about 6 months I was getting horribly (and when i say horribly Im talking gut sticking out like I was 4 months along) distended and i couldnt figure out what was going on exactly. A little bit too late. This continued distention for months on end changed my abdominal wall forever and screwed up the look of my abdominals. My abs look much different than they did in my 20's and I believe ive herniated the abdominal wall from all that distention especially the linea alba.....sucks because I used to have pretty good abs and now i have the turtle shell look. I wish to god that I recognized sooner that I became severely lactose intolerant. I wish I had the information that is available online back when i was 21 via bodybuilding diet....no doubt about it. I made a great many trial and error tribulations with my own diets over the years. But live and learn. If i could change anything I would be eating like I do now with more carbs of course back then.

Life wise Not to be Debbie Downer, but I would of been alot less trusting of people if I knew then what I knew now. I was a pretty trusting person and got scammed, and just betrayed so badly at certain points in my past that if i told this forum alot of you would think "holy crap, how the hell did he make it back from that and be able to trust people again".....I didnt. I dont trust people very well to this day. Im not keen on meeting new people because Ive been severely dissapointed in the past. Ive been jacked hard legally and financially and it is something that sticks with me to this day. It sucks royally that you cant think that everyone you meet has your best interests in mind....but this is a very very cutthroat world and people nowadays approach situations with "Hi, hows it going? How can I step on you to further myself!!! Thanks a lot sucker, Bye." I have alot of acquaintances but only a few people that I trust 100% through and through. So I would say I would of been alot more wary, looked for alot more warning signs and taken my time to think things out clearly. Today I am a calculating, ponderous person, analytical to a fault (which i feel is a good thing) and I demand loyalty from the people around me. There is an old saying of "surround yourself with good people"....its looks simplistic but it is so true. Dont let any cynical person whether its a girlfriend, friend or relative put you down or hold you back....you will waste years.

Work, and Money wise My advice, choose a career that is your hobby, your passion. There is nothing better than getting up in the morning and going to do something that you love. I have a engineering degree in something I wasnt even remotely interested in, and never used it. If someone was cloudy on what they wanted to do I would suggest a business degree, you can never go wrong with that. I do wish I acted on some ideas sooner than I did but I always had a doubt that they would work (usually with a cynical person in my life helping along with that doubting process--ex girlfriend from hell).....if you think something is going to work and you have a passion for it, 9 times out of 10 its going to work BECAUSE YOUR PASSION WILL MAKE IT SUCCEED. Again clear out anyone in your life who isnt saying "I believe in you, you can make it happen, I am behind you in this"

some of the stuff above some of y'all may disagree with and thats fine. not all of it is stuff I agree with but then again im young...

but when he answered the question about relationships, i found it really interesting:

Women wise Im going to catch major crap for this. Let me put this in a way in which I would tell my son I guess (its not what happened to me but my observations as Ive seen it through my eyes toward others and myself)
1) do not get married young (disaster most of the time because you are always left wondering "what if?")
2) do not get in a relationship with a girl before she is out of that college/club/ temptations, meeting alot of guys / 'alot of opportunities to date phase' unless your positive she is beyond that
3) do not blow opportunities with women thinking "ahhh it will come around again"...It wont
4) dont get bummed out greatly if some girl doesnt like you. Every guy gets blown off. EVERY GUY. I dated a penthouse pet girl who was blond and dumped her after a month. Did it mean she was a skank? Nope she was stunning. I like brunettes...always have. One girls Corvette is another girls Opel GT. People like types. Dont take it to heart if you arent her type. A beautiful girl might go for a clean cut all american guy or she might like the tatted up badboy. Its just her type. Move on to the next one and dont take it to heart.
5) As sad as it is to say, and as cavemanesque as it is to say....if you havent tagged your fair share of women before you get married, you just might be getting married with that "man I wish I tagged more girls" thing in your head.....get that out of there so you dont screw up and cheat and ruin the best thing that happened to you when you find the right one.
6) Be self depreciating, but confident and make a girl laugh? You are going to be scoring left and right trust me on that. Be a cocky (see insecure), braggart who can only talk about himself? Welcome to internet porn buddy.
7) Probably the most important rule? Warning signs. What you see in the beginning of a relationship is what you will see in the end x 10. Do not think someone is going to change...what you see in the beginning is what you will get many times over in the end. See a hidden temper in the beginning? Get ready for the explosions when you are a couple. See some insecurity and instability in the beginning? Welcome to emotional mess101 and being accused of everything under the sun in the end.
8) I hate and i mean hate to say this but my observations are this. Alot of girls like the badboy they cant get a grip on/ or control up to about age 25 and then after that age, they get really sick of the jerks and highly appreciate "good guys". Dont mess that up because trying to be a badboy to some woman 30 years old might get you laughed at and dismissed quickly promptly and abruptly.
9) That girl that you were sweating over and was destroyed about at 19 or 21 where you thought it was the end of the world.......LOL will mean absolutely nothing (if you even remember her) to you 2-3 years down the road and you will look back on yourself like a total fool shaking your head "how the hell was I screwed up over that girl? LOL"
10) When you find the right one, YOU WILL KNOW IT...seems cliche but YOU WILL KNOW IT.....so dont blow it. Again get all your curiousities about women out before you find that right one if you can.
11) Every single moment you spend in a relationship with the wrong girl is time lost in finding the right girl
12) Dont be a "jack of all off and a master of bation" What? ok skip #12

what do u guys think??

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wise words...

I try to live everyday with no regrets, but no matter how much you tell your self "it was a learning experience, and if you take the lesson with you, you shouldnt regret it". There is just something about mistakes that make you look back and want to reverse them.

I wont bore everyone with a list of the dumb shit I've done, that would take too long to type. But I will share this nugget ...

Research everything you put in your body, dont care if its flank steak, suppliments or ass ... read, read, read, read, read. And listen, thats has been where the bulk of my mistakes have come from, and still come from. BB.net has helped with this a lot.

I wont touch on the "female" mistakes, that list would be longer then my training mistakes. All I'll say on this matter is, accept everyone for what they are, dont impress upon them who you want them to be, and you will be much much happier.

"Everything I'm not, made me everything I'm am"
-K.West

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I don't do this for my family, my friends, women, accolades, pride, or ego. I do it for me and no one else, its just part of who I am.

I could say similar things. But I won't

What I will say is that I can easily imagine going back, knowing what I know now, and trying to take the right fork instead of the left and sometimes to stop and study a map before bulldozing ahead. It's easy for me to do that. I imagine the girl I let get away. Who doesn't?

I imagine the people I let slip away...those people that are always there in the periphery of my mind. How I would tell them how much they meant the way I never did when I had the chance.

If I had stayed in the military. If I had not allowed my music to end. A thousand ifs.

But of all the different and winding paths I can imagine, none of them lead to here. To my wife and my child. And THAT is something I can't contemplate.

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If you act sanctimonious I will just list out your logical fallacies until you get pissed off and spew blasphemous remarks.