Well I'm glad you re-explained yourself
The OHP comment was said because when I told the girl I couldn't even do 115lbs without discomfort (which is a very manageable weight for me) she said, "well thats alot of weight, maybe its too much for you/your joints"...She deals with people that weigh 115lbs and is using their abilities to determine what a 'heavy' weight would be for me.
Well that makes more sense. Now I know where the frustration comes from.
This is pretty much the problem we are always going to run into in terms of "professionals". Physiotherapists, doctors such as orthodedists, all sorts of other things.
To stay on the physical therapy example because it's the easiest. Your typical physical therapist's job is to return people to "normal functioning". Unless it is a sports physiotherapist, or some one who has specialized training, knowledge and interest, most of them don't necessarily know thing one about strength training. Their job is not to return people to weights, after all, but to return the average joe to average functioning. As such they can be subject to the same prejudices and misconceptions about lifting weights as other people. In fact, lots of them have no interest in vigorous exercise, per se.
You kind of expect someone who is a physical therapist to know about these things but they can have very misguided notions. Plus, you know, they tend to see the bad results of weightlifting instead of the good ones so having no other real reference, their ideas can be formed from that. It's more frustrating coming from a therapist but if you realize she really doesn't KNOW anything about what you do, it may not be any worse than it coming from a typical person who misundertands resistance training.
Really it's the whole use of the word 'average' in general that threw me off track. She said average to mean one thing, you said it to mean another, lol.
As far as the guys in the gym and off days. What can you say? You know off day's are part of it and setbacks are part of it. But I doubt those guys mean any harm. They are attempting to say something helpful that sounds really stupid..but you know it's the thought that counts, even if it's the complete wrong thing. Sometimes it's just better of people to say nothing, lol. But it's probably your mood on that day more than anything else that makes it piss you off.
I hope all that was more on point
BTW, I wasn't trying to make you look like an idiot. I was honestly concerned about your frustration, I just misinterpreted it.